Marriage Preparation

Christian marriage “implies a response to God’s vocation and the acceptance of the mission to be a sign of God’s love for all the members of the human family, by partaking in the definitive covenant of Christ with the Church. Therefore, spouses become cooperators with the Creator and Savior in the gift of love and life. Hence Christian marriage preparation can be described as a journey of faith which does not end with the celebration of marriage but continues throughout family life.” ~ Pontifical Council for the Family

Getting Started

Engaged Couples Guide to Marriage Preparation 2016-2017

Marriage Prep Videos


Love is Our Mission – Small Group Study

The Diocese of Sioux Falls has adapted this text from the 2015 World Meeting of Families to help make it more accessible and easier to use for a small group or couple setting by developing 10 video studies. Included with each study is a discussion guide.  CLICK HERE for this enrichment resource.

Must-Have Conversations

Marriage Unique for a Reason Website


Marriage Prep in our Diocese

Area Marriage Prep Programs

Priests and others have generously volunteered their time and talents to lead a series of marriage preparation programs at various locations throughout the diocese to supplement the individual preparation received with the priest who is marrying the couple. These programs are available in Aberdeen, Brookings, Sioux Falls and Vermillion.

Engaged Encounter

Engaged Encounter is a weekend away from the distractions and tensions of everyday life, giving you the privacy to talk honestly and intensively with each other.  For more EE information, please contact Bart and Barbara Workman at

Upcoming Engaged Encounter Weekends

  • September 9-10, 2017 – Sioux Falls
  • October 28-29, 2017 – Sioux FallsREGISTER HERE

Parish Marriage Preparation Resources and Forms

For a full range of resources and forms to be used in marriage preparation by priests, deacons and marriage sponsor couples, CLICK HERE

FOCCUS Personal Inventory

Diocesan marriage policy requires you to complete an evaluation of your relationship.  This evaluation is commonly referred to as a personal inventory.  The one primarily utilized in the Sioux Falls Diocese is FOCCUS.

The priest or deacon preparing you for marriage will administer the inventory early on in your preparation.  To learn more about the FOCCUS Personal Inventory, CLICK HERE.


Marriage – Sacrament & Vocation

The Living Sacrament: Marriage
by Mother M. Angelica

The Sacrament of Matrimony
Catechism of the Catholic Church


Free, Total, Faithful, Fruitful LOVE

A Basic Theology of Marriage
by Christopher West

Men, Women and the Mystery of Love
by Edward Sri

Marriage: the Mystery of Faithful love
by Alice Von Hildebrand

Sex, Love, and God: the Catholic Answer to Puritanism and Nietzcheanism
by Very Rev. Robert Barron


Living Together Before Marriage

Living Together
by The Catholic Bishops of Pennsylvania

How Splitting Up Brought Them Together
by Una McManus


Prayer & Discernment

An Engaged Couples Prayer

We thank you, O God, for the Love You have implanted in our hearts. May it always inspire us to be kind in our words, considerate of each other’s feelings, and concerned for each other’s needs and desires. Help us to be understanding and forgiving of human weaknesses and failings. Increase our faith and trust in You and may Your Prudence guide our life and love, especially during this preparation time. Reveal to us Your will for our vocations, and grant us the gift of discernment so that, in all things, our love may be fruitful for Your glory. Most Sacred Heart of Jesus, have mercy on us.  Immaculate Heart of Mary, pray for us.  Saints Joachim and Anne, parents of Our Lady, pray for us. Amen.

Who Me, Pray?…With Her?
by Jim & Susan Vogt, MA, CFLE

Ignatian Prayer Time for Spouses (and Engaged Couples)

For more information on Prayer & Discernment CLICK HERE.


Natural Family Planning

Your engagement is a great time to learn about and begin charting your fertility using Natural Family Planning.  To learn more CLICK HERE.